Which marriage last for long time?
We Can't decide which marriage lasts for long. It all depends on the mutual understanding of the couple, trust, love, co-operation, care n time for each other are all a perfect marriage requires.
Well I support love marriage because in arranged marriage we cant say that the person will be "the one who suits U" There is only a less probability of getting a good person indeed it's our life and we cant take any probability into it .
But I will very well go with U in one point "there in no expectation" ....... but the people who truly love each other knows about the expectation of each other.
Love is a passion....
Reply 1
First of all, I want to thank you. Because once I open the forum I always look for your thread as your post always contain some useful discussion and also makes us to think. And your explanation for a definite thread seems very appropriate. Thanks to you once again.
Coming to this point what you have raised, in my view, long time peaceful life is in true love. In arranged marriage too it happens but at some point, in some occasion there exists a chance of thinking like they had done a mistake and there comes problem. In true love marriage (I mean not like fashion love imitating films and other cultures), they do share their life forever and there will be no chance of thinking that they married for others' suggestion or force. In my view love marriage (true) is better than arranged marriage and it lasts forever!
Reply 2
Hi,
I think arrange marriage would be always better. Love for marriage is thing is not going to happen with everyone.
Indian culture has accepted arrange marriage and it had shown good results. I believe that if you are in love then it becomes your necessity to marry. Like nowadays a new point is coming in society called live in relationship. It’s good as it gives same rights to your girlfriend like your wife.
So I think by arrange marriage it will take time but it is always good.
Reply 3
Mostly Love in fist sight is called attraction towards each other. There is no definition of True Love. There are lot many cases failing after Love Marriage but very few in Arranged Marriage because there is a back support of Family and Samaj.
I will go for arranged marriage.
Reply 4
Whether it is love marriage or Arranged marriage, the "Love" is the only adhesive of bondage the souls of both.
As long as Love exists, there will be no problem at all....
Reply 5
Hi
Love Marriage will last for the long time. Because those people will understand each other. They will face the any kind of situation together.
Any problem will be rectified by them.
Reply 6
Marriage is something in which some hearts are bound together by the relationship called love. Couples should understand each other. In arranged marriage time given for a couple to understand each other is very small so it is very difficult to have a better understanding. But in the case of love marriage each will understand each other. So there will be very minimum chance for misunderstandings. Love occurs between the people who understand each other. The main reason for problem between the couples is misunderstanding. In the love marriage misunderstandings are minimum so it stands for life.
Reply 7
I think there is no certain parameter to calculate which marriage lasting long. No one can say this surely. Ya I am sure love marriage is better than arrange marriage as you have option to choose your partner according to your choice. But i want to ask girish is it so easy to know & judge a person whether good or bad for you. I think no. So better not to talk about which marriage long last but to say how a marriage can last longer. Its simple understanding, mutual trust, care & love &above all adjustment in between.
Reply 8
I think Arranged marriage is far better than love marriage. I shall give you a psychological edge to this fact. If a thing pleases your eyes you start liking it then you start loving it and this is where your heart comes into play. Then it is taken over by your mind and you start questioning your heart and mind as to why only this face. In like debate in-between your self the heart is the winner (90%)
whereas in case of arranged marriage your parents who have seen the world with all views and have experienced the stage which you are into can balance the situations better and can go in details. More over in love marriage what I have seen both the girls and the boy try to put their best foot forward when the love is on as the fear of loosing is there and when it comes to marriage and they start staying together they come to know the complete man or woman and then there are many things which might not be appreciated by each other and there is a sad ending. Where as in arranged marriage a new man/woman is front of you and you have to understand and explore him/her from the very beginning and you are mentally prepared for it so the conflicts are less.
All said and it is the compromising level on the partners which makes a marriage successful weather it is arranged or Love. You have to be a good swimmer to reach the other end. You yourself a parameter to calculate it.
Reply 9
According to me there should be love after the marriage. If you love your life partner after the marriage then you will succeed in your marriage life. There may be problems in both love marriage as well as in arranged marriage. The thing is how we are overcoming them. If we select our life partner who best matches with us in all regards, it will be easy for us. In this regard, love marriages have some advantage as you can understand each other very well prior to your marriage itself. But any thing it may be unless you start loving your life partner after marriage you will find it very difficult.
Reply 10
It’s not about the type of marriage. It’s about the couple who married if they understood each other and make some scarifies for each other the marriage will last for long irrespective of the type.
Reply 11
Marriages can be divided into 3 categories Arranged marriage, Love marriage and love arranged marriage. In this every category has individual deeds. Arranged marriage are only by wish of parents in this in this both the couples doesn't know about each this is lead to some problem if its not sooner also later surely problem will come between them. Now love marriage in this each understand themselves what they are what and all they all things but if they marry without the permission there parents surely problem if a small problem comes between them became so bigger and this will also lead to the disaster, And the best is to do is the love arranged marriage in this couples as well the family members will be happy and if problem comes it will be solved easily but I am sure in this no problem or anything will come to them.
Reply 12
Hi Girish Patil,
Yes I agree with you. This is because in love marriages we do not have a new introduction to lead a life. They would have known each others and would have got an opportunity to understand each others. These people will have compromising character and will leave in case of an argument to make the other one happy.
But in arranged marriages it is different.
Reply 13
I feel. There will be no problem in life if we follow our parents in marriage matters. Because they know what is good and what is wrong towards the child future.
AND so i prefer it is good to listen parents and just get married. oh I mean arranged marriage.
Reply 14
Hello Girish patil,
Yes it is the truth today that no one knows which marriage lasts for a long time. As there is a saying that "Marriages are made in heaven".
The important essentials in a marriage are trust and love. When these two qualities lack in a marriage then it leads to the way of ruin.
Yes we can say that love marriages may last for long time but no one knows what the truth is. When we can see the western culture system of only love marriages with a lot of diverse rate.
It is not the point of lasting long but how well do the couple try to understand each other and dedicate oneself for the cause of others. There might be many marriages which will last long but if we personally interview both the couple separately. We might hear a negative response of just abiding to the custom of marriage because of many situations.
Love is feeling of passion for one another. I needs to be nurtured with words and actions through out.
Reply 15
hi
Marriage is one of the most important stage in ones life.
According to me i guess both love and arranged have advantages as well as disadvantages.
Fears of love marriage grip the hearts of parents who tend to push their children into unwilling alliances resulting in separation and divorce.
If it’s an arranged marriage then there may arise a problem on dowry.
So we can never conclude which one lasts forever.
There are several examples of both kinds of marriages ending disastrously.
For a marriage to remain sweet and stable there should be trust ,cooperation and understanding between partners.
Domestic quarrels may not harm much.
In today’s fast and complex world marriages seem to have become a matter involving egos and money rather than love and romance.
Problems may arise when individuals in a couple have greater commitment to themselves rather than their partner.
It may also arise due to misunderstanding, possesiveness, jealousy, suspicion etc.
Thus I would like to conclude that marriage is not a moments pleasure, it’s a garden that needs constant tending.
We Can't decide which marriage lasts for long. It all depends on the mutual understanding of the couple, trust, love, co-operation, care n time for each other are all a perfect marriage requires.
Well I support love marriage because in arranged marriage we cant say that the person will be "the one who suits U" There is only a less probability of getting a good person indeed it's our life and we cant take any probability into it .
But I will very well go with U in one point "there in no expectation" ....... but the people who truly love each other knows about the expectation of each other.
Love is a passion....
Reply 1
First of all, I want to thank you. Because once I open the forum I always look for your thread as your post always contain some useful discussion and also makes us to think. And your explanation for a definite thread seems very appropriate. Thanks to you once again.
Coming to this point what you have raised, in my view, long time peaceful life is in true love. In arranged marriage too it happens but at some point, in some occasion there exists a chance of thinking like they had done a mistake and there comes problem. In true love marriage (I mean not like fashion love imitating films and other cultures), they do share their life forever and there will be no chance of thinking that they married for others' suggestion or force. In my view love marriage (true) is better than arranged marriage and it lasts forever!
Reply 2
Hi,
I think arrange marriage would be always better. Love for marriage is thing is not going to happen with everyone.
Indian culture has accepted arrange marriage and it had shown good results. I believe that if you are in love then it becomes your necessity to marry. Like nowadays a new point is coming in society called live in relationship. It’s good as it gives same rights to your girlfriend like your wife.
So I think by arrange marriage it will take time but it is always good.
Reply 3
Mostly Love in fist sight is called attraction towards each other. There is no definition of True Love. There are lot many cases failing after Love Marriage but very few in Arranged Marriage because there is a back support of Family and Samaj.
I will go for arranged marriage.
Reply 4
Whether it is love marriage or Arranged marriage, the "Love" is the only adhesive of bondage the souls of both.
As long as Love exists, there will be no problem at all....
Reply 5
Hi
Love Marriage will last for the long time. Because those people will understand each other. They will face the any kind of situation together.
Any problem will be rectified by them.
Reply 6
Marriage is something in which some hearts are bound together by the relationship called love. Couples should understand each other. In arranged marriage time given for a couple to understand each other is very small so it is very difficult to have a better understanding. But in the case of love marriage each will understand each other. So there will be very minimum chance for misunderstandings. Love occurs between the people who understand each other. The main reason for problem between the couples is misunderstanding. In the love marriage misunderstandings are minimum so it stands for life.
Reply 7
I think there is no certain parameter to calculate which marriage lasting long. No one can say this surely. Ya I am sure love marriage is better than arrange marriage as you have option to choose your partner according to your choice. But i want to ask girish is it so easy to know & judge a person whether good or bad for you. I think no. So better not to talk about which marriage long last but to say how a marriage can last longer. Its simple understanding, mutual trust, care & love &above all adjustment in between.
Reply 8
I think Arranged marriage is far better than love marriage. I shall give you a psychological edge to this fact. If a thing pleases your eyes you start liking it then you start loving it and this is where your heart comes into play. Then it is taken over by your mind and you start questioning your heart and mind as to why only this face. In like debate in-between your self the heart is the winner (90%)
whereas in case of arranged marriage your parents who have seen the world with all views and have experienced the stage which you are into can balance the situations better and can go in details. More over in love marriage what I have seen both the girls and the boy try to put their best foot forward when the love is on as the fear of loosing is there and when it comes to marriage and they start staying together they come to know the complete man or woman and then there are many things which might not be appreciated by each other and there is a sad ending. Where as in arranged marriage a new man/woman is front of you and you have to understand and explore him/her from the very beginning and you are mentally prepared for it so the conflicts are less.
All said and it is the compromising level on the partners which makes a marriage successful weather it is arranged or Love. You have to be a good swimmer to reach the other end. You yourself a parameter to calculate it.
Reply 9
According to me there should be love after the marriage. If you love your life partner after the marriage then you will succeed in your marriage life. There may be problems in both love marriage as well as in arranged marriage. The thing is how we are overcoming them. If we select our life partner who best matches with us in all regards, it will be easy for us. In this regard, love marriages have some advantage as you can understand each other very well prior to your marriage itself. But any thing it may be unless you start loving your life partner after marriage you will find it very difficult.
Reply 10
It’s not about the type of marriage. It’s about the couple who married if they understood each other and make some scarifies for each other the marriage will last for long irrespective of the type.
Reply 11
Marriages can be divided into 3 categories Arranged marriage, Love marriage and love arranged marriage. In this every category has individual deeds. Arranged marriage are only by wish of parents in this in this both the couples doesn't know about each this is lead to some problem if its not sooner also later surely problem will come between them. Now love marriage in this each understand themselves what they are what and all they all things but if they marry without the permission there parents surely problem if a small problem comes between them became so bigger and this will also lead to the disaster, And the best is to do is the love arranged marriage in this couples as well the family members will be happy and if problem comes it will be solved easily but I am sure in this no problem or anything will come to them.
Reply 12
Hi Girish Patil,
Yes I agree with you. This is because in love marriages we do not have a new introduction to lead a life. They would have known each others and would have got an opportunity to understand each others. These people will have compromising character and will leave in case of an argument to make the other one happy.
But in arranged marriages it is different.
Reply 13
I feel. There will be no problem in life if we follow our parents in marriage matters. Because they know what is good and what is wrong towards the child future.
AND so i prefer it is good to listen parents and just get married. oh I mean arranged marriage.
Reply 14
Hello Girish patil,
Yes it is the truth today that no one knows which marriage lasts for a long time. As there is a saying that "Marriages are made in heaven".
The important essentials in a marriage are trust and love. When these two qualities lack in a marriage then it leads to the way of ruin.
Yes we can say that love marriages may last for long time but no one knows what the truth is. When we can see the western culture system of only love marriages with a lot of diverse rate.
It is not the point of lasting long but how well do the couple try to understand each other and dedicate oneself for the cause of others. There might be many marriages which will last long but if we personally interview both the couple separately. We might hear a negative response of just abiding to the custom of marriage because of many situations.
Love is feeling of passion for one another. I needs to be nurtured with words and actions through out.
Reply 15
hi
Marriage is one of the most important stage in ones life.
According to me i guess both love and arranged have advantages as well as disadvantages.
Fears of love marriage grip the hearts of parents who tend to push their children into unwilling alliances resulting in separation and divorce.
If it’s an arranged marriage then there may arise a problem on dowry.
So we can never conclude which one lasts forever.
There are several examples of both kinds of marriages ending disastrously.
For a marriage to remain sweet and stable there should be trust ,cooperation and understanding between partners.
Domestic quarrels may not harm much.
In today’s fast and complex world marriages seem to have become a matter involving egos and money rather than love and romance.
Problems may arise when individuals in a couple have greater commitment to themselves rather than their partner.
It may also arise due to misunderstanding, possesiveness, jealousy, suspicion etc.
Thus I would like to conclude that marriage is not a moments pleasure, it’s a garden that needs constant tending.
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