Can you marry a Dalit girl?

Suppose a dalit girl proposes for marriage you who is beautiful like aishwarya and intelligent as well but her family belongs to lowest rung hindu caste hierarchy; could you marry her even if your parents are relatives are against it???
Question is for Forward caste and OBC class!!!!
as far as my views are concerned , it depends the person ,the man who belongs to a good educational background as well as he is broadminded .in this case i think there would be no problem ,but the person who are narrow minded this problem maybe occurred. Now days intercast marriages are very normal thing and now the mentality
of people are going to change. All these things are very helpful to make a good society.
It depends only one thing girl should be capable otherwise if u are not educated and smart same problem occurs with you (I mean to say that girl who belong to a good cast)


Reply 1

Look things are very simple to understand. Change of religion is some one's look and attraction of that particular community and its social structures. If somebody likes, he can opt for that religion but your question about marry of dalit girl is not an issue for a person. To marry someone whom you like and you feel that you can pass life with her association. Marrying a dalit or brahmin girl is not at all concerned with personality.
If you are in love then find your own way.
But from my point of view it will not be so easy task you know. Many social obligations will come on your way. But don't get worried.
Seek for the strength buried in your own soul.
Get prepared for those questions which will be raised against you.

Reply 2

Nowadays all things are changed only people who are in old days talking like this rubbish things like caste, i can marry a dalit marry the only i need from her is love nd carrying for my entire life

Reply 3

I do not mind marrying a Dalit girl as long as we are able to get along. It is possible for a person from any background to be civilized and wise irrespective of education and finances. Regarding parents, they have lived in a different time. They might have problems but we should not bear any ill will for that. I have friends who are Brahmins who have married Backward Caste etc.

So I wouldn't mind what they are as long as they can get along with me.

Reply 4

I too man, I am ready too marry Irrespective of the caste, career, race, religion, etc.

We are living in the era of Information technology and can live up to our dreams if we had a good life partner.

"It is not how much you do, but how much love you put in the doing."

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Reply 5

At first sight no body knows, who has filled your heart with light,pleasure and pushed your heart beat. If some can do all these things for that people spend their whole life and very few of us got opportunity to blow in this kind madness that make you crazy, persuade to let your mind free to blow and made beautiful dreams with someone.
All these think are priceless no one can sell and purchase.
No matter she belongs which caste and religion. There are so many example people had left family, career and society. If we take the recent example of chandra mohan MLA of haryana, has change his religion
for his love.
It has found that People indulge in love, prove himself many a time, but the question is, and Are our society will accept it?
How many of parents are going to accept it.
I think there are members who have child. My question is to them,
Will you accept if your child is going to make this kind of relation?

Reply 6

Even though we will say India as a secular state, these kinds of questions emphasize that we are not. It’s the duty of every citizen to eradicate this kind of discrepancies. So never matter which ever the caste girl is, if you find her as a perfect match for you, make her the life partner.

Reply 7

Ya sure
It has found that People indulge in love, prove himself many a time, but the question is, Are our society will accept it?
How many of parents are going to accept it.
I think there are members who have child. My question is to them,
Will you accept if your child is going to make this kind of relation?

Reply 8

Girish,

good point for discussion. It depends on the person. If a person of a forward likes a dalit girl, he will definitely marry her. It is not that she is very beautiful like aishwarya or something like that. Marriage between people depends on their likings. And now days it is common thing that boys of forward caste are marrying Dalit girls. It is a fact that we have to accept.

Reply 9

People shouldn’t be discriminated on the basis of their caste. First of all they are human and are people of god .All are equal before god and we should respect them. So marrying someone shouldn’t depend on caste but on heart.

Reply 10

At first place do not use this manmade-later-politician's-petword Dalit for a girl otherwise a gifted human being. Let us pledge to shun these unnecessary vocabularies. Then only it will have a natural death in itself. We are people of a different millennium. Let us ward off those old thoughts with little relevance today.

I think all of us never think from that angle barring some sanguivore politicians.

Reply 11

if people fall in love then they do not see what is the cast of each others they just hang out and tied with each other and about a dalit gal proposing to us whether she is beautiful or not generally after a propose no body gets married if the things goes right and we can make a mind set and can understand mutually then i will definitely marry a dalit girl

Reply 12

Now days no one can shows interested on cast.

If even she is beautiful and intelligent she has to match with opinions of that boy.

If her tests match with his, he definitely marries her for this cast is no issues.

And coming to point of relatives, they don't be with us for ever especially at the time of need.

No there is nothing to think about relations.

Reply 13

Hi,

In the present situation of world moving with a high pace for the improvement of life no has the real time to think about the caste and religions. Considering the fact of life span being reduced it transparent that everyone would like to live all the moments.

It does not really matters whether the girl whom you like is a dalit, brahmin, muslim ...or any other caste or religion.what matters would be the character pursured by her, marriages are arranged in heaven and you cannot escape the fate.

These differences are injected into our minds by our politicians and leaders; do we have an option of choosing the family to be born? Then why are we intending to be specific in selecting girl from a particular caste.

Humanity counts and marrying a dalit girl will not destroy our moral values. Marriage is a relation between two people and it depends on the understanding, love and caring towards each other. Its a link between two hearts.

Reply 14

Hi Girish,

This is really a good topic to discuss on. From my point of view if a Dalit girl wants to marry me and I am also in real love with her, so there is only one thing that can comes in between us and that is my mentality which has to decide whether I can able to take care of her and whether we can able to manage our lifes with what I earn.

Look from the idealistic point of view nothing can going to stop me from marrying her... but life is not ideal. Even if my parents are not taking my side for this marriage, we can still get married. I know they will get offended with us and might break the relationship with us, but when they realize that we live our life smoothly and happily, they will surely get back to us by removing all the grievances that they have in there mind.

So I think that it all depends on the mentality of me, which will decide what is right and what is wrong.

Reply 15

I agree with MrMukherjee. It is the mentally of the man and the girl to decide what is good for them. If a man is really in love with a girl and wud like to have her as his life partner then nothing can stop them. As many of our friends said, now a days people wont give much importance to caste, religion or creed and the parents also are more adjustable.

But when they start living together both of them have to do a lot of adjustments with their in laws etc since they belong to two different community/caste or religion.

Reply 16

dear friend love does ask for relation nowadays ,asking for religion is like a crime ,and marrying a smart, intelligent alit girl even if she is not beautiful is far more better then marrying a illogical, and stupid girl of the uppermost caste even if she looks like Aishwarya.